9 things I learnt during the Escape Tribe

1. After a high comes a low

Having resigned from my job in June, the excitement and joy that the rest of the Summer brought extended into the early portion of the Escape Tribe. Eager and enthusiastic, I gave a lot of myself and probably ended up taking on too much. This high inevitably came crashing down around half-way through.

2. Even introverts need interaction

I am an out and proud introvert, which has it’s advantages and disadvantages (just like being an extrovert also does). Though I value my downtime, there were times when I isolated myself and was way too stuck in my head. With Tribe (mostly) just an evening a week, and my Masters just one weekend every 3 weeks, I was spending a lot of time at home, alone, and thinking by myself. Even for an introspective introvert who loves to think, there is a limit to what is healthy.

MorningGloryVille with some of my Escape Tribe, November 2015 (the boys were under-represented that day!)

3. I need to get out of my head more

My need for ‘knowing everything’ and being a perfectionist can seriously get in the way. There’s a fine line between research to help set the course, and endless research to ‘fill the gaps’ and ‘knowing everything before you begin’ — this is impossible, and you won’t ever begin. I’ve experienced that myself, a lot. This is where the MVP (minimum viable product) comes in — or, as I prefer, the MLP (minimum loveable product), a term taken from The Happy Startup School.

Perfection is the enemy of the done.

Action: Take time to consciously create stuff, and put it out into the world. e.g. Writing blog posts like this

4. At this point in time, I want to work for myself — or at least give it a go

This might change, heck I could even change my mind tomorrow. And that’s OK. Nothing is permanent. What’s most important is that I am in control, and have the power to act and try things out. Daniel Pink talks about Autonomy, Mastery and Purpose (i.e. the stuff at the top of Maslow’s hierarchy) — at this moment in time, I feel that that would best manifest itself building something myself and working on it.

Credit: www.thegeniusworks.com

5. There’s something about coming together in tribes…

“A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea” — Seth Godin

There is magic in the tribe

Before Escape, I used to expose myself to a virtual tribe — the likes of Scott Dinsmore, Leo Babauta and Chris Guillebeau — all of whom had carved out work during what they loved. I still continue to utilise this “virtual community”, and it was there for me before I had my real-world Escape tribe.

6. Leaps are necessary — whether big or small

I was one of those who had resigned before Escape. I had no clue what I wanted to do, but I had the security blanket of a year-long full-time Masters (combining Positive Psychology and Coaching) to figure things out. When I had concluded, for various reasons, that I didn’t want to be a coach, I panicked a bit. I am now studying just the Positive Psychology, and bar the necessary evil of assignments, it’s a subject I love and I am sure will serve me in the future, in my own day-to-day life if not professionally.

7. “You are the average of the five people you spend most time with.”

Jim Rohn’s words, and one of Scott Dinsmore’s favourite quotes. Very true indeed, and this ties in with Point 5 (on “tribes”). No matter how strong your sense of self, others around you will inevitably rub off and influence you. To consciously surround yourself with others who hold your values and beliefs, and are trying to achieve the sorts of inspiration things you are trying to, will help you in the long run. You need all the ingredients you can get in making a brave new change — this is one of those key ingredients.

8. No one knows what they’re doing

I used to fool myself into thinking (and still do!) that every successful person who’s built something cool had some sort of God-given talent and it just sorta happened. Then I started reading about founders’ first-hand accounts and realised this just wasn’t true. We just see the end product. Have you seen what Amazon looked like when it first started? And the likes of Twitter and Facebook? Check ’em out here.

9. The journey continues. Keep moving forward!

We are never “done”. There are lots of paths. In fact, as Leah Cox writes, there are no wrong paths.

To be able to look back at what you’ve done — you’ve got to keep moving forward and keep on doing stuff!

So here’s to moving forward during the rest of 2016 and beyond. Hopefully there’ll be lots to look back on in future months and years!

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infp • blogger-turned-author • building a community for writers with ADHD ✍️🧠 www.jasraj.me

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